Just 3 more days until LOVE DAY- Valentine’s Day! I think it’s beautiful—the opportunity to express love to one another in an extra special and intimate way. For some, the expectations of the day can be pretty high, wanting everything to be just perfect so that the intimacy can be free flowing on the big day. And while craving this intimacy with those we love is a wonderful thing, it got me thinking about how Father craves the same from us ( Psalm 63:1-8 ) and what can hinder that intimacy. Well, one huge road block to intimacy, whether it be with Father, spouses, or others, is unconfessed wrongs.
The selfishness of failing to voice our shortcomings to those we love can seem more appealing than the fear of shame. However, the silence of an unconfessed wrong creates a void that becomes larger and more difficult to traverse the longer it remains unconfessed. One thing that really impresses me with David, the one whom God called “a man after My own heart”, was how quickly He confessed His wrongs. In 2 Samuel 24:10 AMP, after allowing his emotions to dictate a decision he made, he confessed immediately saying, “I have sinned greatly in what I have done. But now, O Lord, please take away the sin of Your servant, for I have acted very foolishly.” And we all know of his adulterous affair with Bathsheba and subsequent murder of her husband when she became pregnant. Both were incredible wrongs which he tried to cover up, but when he was confronted by the priest, Nathan, he immediately said, “I have sinned against the Lord” (2 Samuel 12:13). He then went even deeper and wrote the most heartfelt, pride-stripping “I’m sorry…please forgive me” song I’ve ever heard in Psalm 51 !
We can learn so much from David! He understood that his sin would hinder all communications with God, and the thought of his sin standing in the way of him being intimate with Father literally and immediately brought him to his knees. If your desire for God is based on having a relationship with Him, then you can probably understand David’s stance. However, if your view of God is one that is rooted in your performance as a Christian, shame and religion may make it challenging for you see your Father as the One who has already said the first “I Love You” and is waiting for you to respond no matter how many times you fall short.
God did not call David a man after His heart because he acted like Him or because he had a near flawless nature. We know that’s not true because David made many BIG mistakes! He was a man after God’s heart because he was after His heart. David chased after the heart of God like no one else in scripture. Regardless of what was happening in his life, good or bad, no matter how badly he messed up, his focus was the presence and heart of God. So, even though he knew his mistakes would bring consequences, it didn’t matter; he would quickly confess to the Lord that he was wrong just so that he was able to continue experiencing His presence in an intimate way.
Confessing our shortcomings is not to be a ritual that is done repeatedly and serves to condemn or bring shame. Instead, it is done once sincerely and frees us to be in His presence so that we can openly give our adoration and receive His revelation. As a matter of fact, in Psalm 32 , the need for confession to God precedes the revelation of instruction from God. So, whether or not you’re making special preparations this Valentine’s Day, let’s remember that confession is good for the intimacy.